She still wakes up and I nurse her (at least) 1-2 times during the 11-12 hours of her night; whether she's hungry or just wants comforting, I don't know. And that’s okay! -Rachel, Try distracting her like putting a mirror in front of her, or playing her favorite musical toy or having her sit in your lap instead of a high-chair, or even try feeding her at a park where there is always enough to distract babies, maybe then she will not be concentrating so much on refusing food, and you may manage to get her to start getting using to it. steamed baby carrots, chunks of cauliflower, peas), cooked beans, chunks of meat or tofu cubes, avocados, pasta, all kinds of stuff. They even like spicy Korean tofu! Also make sure she is not being breastfed or given other snacks right before mealtimes. I dimly realized that I could not blame this behavior on her, so did a little reading and realized I had to backtrack: I started giving her all kinds of messy foods such as yogurt, cereal, etc. But I want you to take a deep breath and repeat the next few phrases to yourself: It is my job to prepare and offer her food to eat. You can probably bypass the pureed baby food altogether. what should I try next? Think of this as similar to sleep training — you know she’s exhausted, but you can’t MAKE her sleep. - small pieces of steamed (to the point of soft/mushy) veggies. I can't say that this has been my favorite part of mothering so far, though. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. it may make sense to give them vitamin supplements. They also proudly drink water themselves from sippy cups. He won't eat anything that is delivered on a spoon. I'm not a big fan of some of his advice, but I thought this was good. The same goes for food and hunger. Home » Baby Basics » Solid Foods for Babies: When a 13-M-O Won't Eat Solid Foods for Babies: When a 13-M-O Won’t Eat Creating a baby solid food schedule is no easy task, and it must be SO tough to figure out solid foods for babies who refuse to eat or are very picky. Good luck! Heather. And on weekends he'll eat pretty well. At her recent checkup, the doctor tested her blood for anemia, which she did not have. If she rejects it: Again, try to stay calm. We also have been offering her slices of fresh fruits and vegetables -- (peeled) carrot sticks, (peeled and sliced) cucumber sticks, apple wedges, steamed sweet potato chunks, etc. Some children just take longer to take to solids. We just spread it out in front of them and they pick it up, an increasing percentage of it actually winds up in their mouths! I tried to feed my daughter solids after 6 months with spoon and but she wouldn’t have it so in order to fill her stomach and get all the necessary things into her I started grinding all of her food and feed it through her milk bottle. Sadly, you don't get to choose It’s not really doing her any good at this point. If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to [email protected]. If I go anywhere near his mouth with a spoon he waves both hands and clamps his mouth shut. It’s also a choking hazard. She would smear the food all over her face and hair (and all over MY face and hair) and highchair, and end up eating some of it. Let him figure out how to eat it. He wouldn't eat for anything. He eats breakfast before he goes in the morning & dinner once we get home. I got a booster seat, attached it to a grown-up chair in the dining room, and that was that. Try including her in a family dinner/meal, even if she’s just in her high chair entertaining herself with a book or toy. At first, this frustrated me; her self-feeding skills were such that she didn't eat as much as she did when she was spoonfed. - my favorite invention was grated cheese, rice cereal, and a veggie or fruit mixed together and then rolled into small balls that he could pick up and put in his mouth. She has always been a light eater, but lately she won't take more than a couple of bites of food. Now that it is fruit season things have gotten easier. hope that helps, I had the exact same problem with my daughter (now 22 months old), and it took me some months to realize that the problem was mine, not hers. Our babysitter still can spoon-feed him anything, and this helped a lot, too, as he ate prodigiously with her. Finally, keep the gluten-containing grains (wheat, rye, barley, oats) out of her diet until she is older than 2. And I would talk to his doctor about it and he says he'll eat when he gets ready. I have noticed a decrease in the daytime nursing, but, to the mom who complained about her babe's frequent night nursing, I'm sorry to say that hasn't eased up (if you're feeling overwhelmed, please get connected with La Leche League or check out the Sears duo's Nightime Parenting or Mothering Your Nursing Toddler, which is published by LLL). Other good advice I've read is to not worry about them getting complete nutrition every day, but rather think of it as a week at a time. choking-phobic mom, I would just let him eat with his hands and clean him up when he's finished. Some of her favorites include: all kinds of beans, tofu, cooked veggies, pasta, waffles, pancakes, sliced turkey, all kinds of cheese, yogurt, potatoes, yams, tamales, rice, bananas & most other fruits, especially melons. But I encouraged her to try, and soon she was making fabulous messes. I kept giving him cottage cheese mixed into pureed food at every meal, eventually moving up to larger pieces as he started being able to handle the smaller ones. It's easier for her to swallow food and she has more teeth. and to prepare her for the transition away from the bottle or breast. Breastmilk is a complete food. He still has days when he eats little compared to other days. He also doesn't seem to show much if any interest in the food on my plate. interest in food etc. You say your child eats finger food -- maybe the key is just to provide a wider variety of this, rather than getting him to eat what you spoon-feed him. Is this a reason to look for a new daycare? She spit up a lot when she was younger - she didn't have reflux but certainly seemed to have a sensitive gag reflex, so maybe that has something to do with it? I know at times I felt embarassed among friends who had babies that were chomping away at a variety of table foods, while mine still turned his nose up at them. But now it’s been 6 months like that I have been trying to feed her with spoon and fork again but she does not want it and would not eat anything whether fruits or vegetables, no matter which one is on the table. Children will not starve themselves. She will be eating table foods soon enough. Supervise him while he eats, but don't worry too much that he's going to choke. Don't spend a lot of time looking at her or pushing food on her. Incidentally, she started drinking cows milk and walking around the time when this change in her diet appeared. Rather, she has become relatively fastidious, and often asks me, mid-meal, to wipe her face and hands (though I give her her own napkin). This whole process increases my anxiety and stress. I was at my wits' end, and he ate nothing but Cheerios (on top of breastfeeding) for two weeks because I couldn't figure out how to get food into him. Nothing will create a picky eater faster. Around 40% of a 12 - month old's diet should be fat, as it provides them with the calories they need for the energy they are burning in being active and growing. Fortunately, most children grow out of this phase, though it can sometimes take weeks, even months. Take care, Christina, Here's what worked with our son: nearly any fruit, cut up (peaches, plums, half an apple (once he got some teeth), 1/4 grapes), scrambled eggs (or yolks until he was 1), small bits of pizza (bigger pieces also were good for teething), avocado cut up, clumps of rice mixed with beans and avocado, garden burgers cut up (these saved our lives! He is now 18 months and eating much more, but not nearly as much as children his age. Good luck. Again, I was slow to understand what she was trying to tell me: She was through with the high chair. One expert said, ''You are only responsible for what food you offer your child, you are not responsible for what they eat.'' She will take oatmeal, but refuses all other solids. time. if your child is not being breastfed exclusively, is exclusively formula fed, lives in a place where they are not able to get a few minutes of sunshine every day (or if you are living off a diet of fast food and diet coke!) I kept trying to give him finger foods because I didn't want him to get stuck on pureed food, but I believe his tongue control wasn't developed enough and would let food get down his throat before he was finished mashing it up. Adrian, So wait! For the first 12 months, breastmilk or formula are a baby’s primary source of nutrition — solid foods aren’t actually “necessary.” They’re more to help your baby practice fine- and oral-motor skills (i.e. All this to say, essentially, that you are not alone.... robin. I am still breastfeeding, which she has never refused, but worry that she should be eating solids. The most he'll eat is half a gold fish or part of a cheerio. He will probably demonstrate very quickly that he won't -- most things will be gummed into mush in his mouth, and others will simply be swallowed whole. He has not eaten baby food, and has refused to eat it, for a few months now. Good luck! I will admit it was -- and still sometimes is -- frustrating to thoughtfully prepare food that only ended up all over the kitchen floor. (youngest now are 9 month old twins). If your child is not eating a wide variety and decent quantity of solid foods at 12 months, continue to give her formula to provide sufficient nutrition. As with all milestones (sitting, eating solids, crawling, etc. Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike. And i'm concerned that she's not getting any proteins and carbohydrates. A baby younger than age 4 months shouldn't be given home-prepared spinach, beets, carrots, green beans or squash. It was a lot of fun when family descended for Christmas, let me tell you. Every week I make a big fruit salad so that it is ready and easy to serve (watermelon, canalope, strawberries, blueberries). My son would not touch it (texture thing) but her girls loved it. (Breast or bottle will likely remain their “preferred” source of nutrition, but again, that is also totally okay and recommended for the first year.). Offer fluids frequently throughout the day, and remember that any amount — even a few sips at a time — is a good thing. She definitely wanted to be in charge of feeding herself and now at age 2.5 eats with utensils like a champ. Rice and beans is a big favorite: they pick up the beans one by one, and the rice in little clumps. Also plain, whole wheat toast is fun to gnaw on. It is very frustrating, especially when we see other babies who are super eaters. Since we have gone back almost exclusively to her bottle for the time being, I'm afraid it's going be even more difficult to break her of it once she reaches her first birthday. What little nibbles of applesauce your baby will eat is just not comparable to the nourishment breastmilk can offer. We have increased her bottle feeding of course, but here is my worry: Most of what I've read recommends stopping the bottle at a year. It's all about the art of distraction with this one. When it was time for solids he would barely eat. He is nearly 15 months now and I would say has really shown an appetite for solids only within the last month. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. as my friend ann says, you could place a plate full of cigarette butts in front of my baby and she would grab at it). So this is what it's like to have a baby who eats finger foods so easily! It's messy but allows your kiddo to explore tastes and textures on their own and enjoy mealtimes! He was a quick gainer; if I recall correctly, he hit 16 pounds by four months. and does anyone have some creative ideas about how to get food into this child? 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