Question - (29 September 2010) : 1 Answers - (Newest, 29 September 2010): A female age 41-50, anonymous writes: I am having a real hard time now to my husband. (Some time for myself would be nice too.) My husband is the police chief. My Husband Spends All Our Money On Himself: All My Husband Cares About Is Money. Never mind the bruises I was sporting. I admit it. ET I love numbers, spreadsheets, books by Suze Orman, all of it, but I stubbornly felt that we should share fiscal responsibilities. He picks on things I say and do. Of course, he may feel that because he makes more money, he should get to spend more. The money I earned as a journalist was barely a drop in the bucket compared to what my husband brought in, but I felt lucky to be doing what I loved, and it never occurred to me that I … We both work independent jobs. The one sticking point was with money. ... but he makes … I wanted my husband to get his shit together and stop paying fees on his credit cards. We eat out on my husband’s salary. Plus, my husband often says that, God willing, as we grow in our respective careers and make more money, it’s his hope to take over the majority of bills. I have been a working wife, followed by few years of being working mom, and then now, I am a house wife. My dad gave me some really good advice about money - he told me that him and his wife put ALL the money together regardless of who was earning what, then they would that use the money to pay for rent/bills/food/debts and only when there was nothing else to pay for then whatever is left is slipt 50/50. The Moneyist I earn twice my husband’s salary and pay all the bills — now he hides all his savings Published: Oct. 14, 2019 at 1:57 p.m. He keeps all the extra in his pocket. I know how difficult it is to get help when married to a narcissist of “status”. I, on the other hand, work a part-time job and make about 25,000 a year. My husband makes all the money. Dear Carolyn: My sister stays home with her two small children (2 and 1) while her partner works. I like seeing his friend looking down my dress and enjoying the view. ; Maybe he spends too much money, is super lazy, or spends his Sunday mornings in bed because he doesn’t think going to church is necessary. I’m starting to become resentful towards him over this. and my family had to foot the remainder. I tried to go to a womens shelter once and they turned me away because of who my husband is. On the nights his best friend comes over, my husband makes me wear a low cut dress with no bra so that when I serve food bending over, his friend can see all of my t***. Then he got divorce to his first wife, i dont know exactly the main reason bout it but all i hear is all about money. * Land a money only once in a month for entire month, do not give small amounts in between. I am 40 years old and we have two daughters, 9 years and 14 years old. It might sound pretty sweet to have your partner taking care of you financially, but some people can feel uncomfortable and even inadequate if their spouse or partner makes more money … It is uncommon that MFS is a better choice than MFJ. My husband is a far better money manager than I am, and a better negotiator too, so he does the hard, boring bit (imo), BUT I am equal and can do as I wish, when I wish, with all the passwords and no questions (I suppose if I suddenly went mad and drained the accounts with no warning he might say something LOL! * Find out his expenditure habits. I, for some reason, and for the last couple of years, have been taking care of all the bills with my income. Like the mortgage and etc.. Now he is making better money. I have never been able to work part-time because we can't afford for me to do so. Does your husband ever make decisions you don’t agree with? Maybe he goes to the bar regularly but you don’t think Christians should drink. I got fat. I can’t control how much money I make. Many of the people who believe they are better off MFS think that because they are not preparing their returns properly. Joseph Morgan*, 34, a real estate investor who makes five times as much as his freelance writer … Here are 4 mistakes husbands make that screw up their marriages and lead to divorce — as told by me, a guy who made them all. It’s like nothing is good enough and I just can’t bring myself to do anything for him because he will complain or easily get annoyed with any ideas I offer up which conflict with his own. For our day-to-day lives, I contribute zilch. Dear Bossip, My husband I have been together for 24 years and married for 18 years. “Even if your husband earns more money, there is a tax benefit of claiming two deductions — one for each spouse — on the returns,” says David Waltzer, a New York-based lawyer. I know he makes way more money than me bc he always has wads of money in his pockets. * Note Down all the expenses of your family (items and amount including your husband). My husband is very hard working man tight with money wen it comes to giving me money or even buying me something .bt when we first got married or even before that he bought me lots of things .I just don't understand why he changed .and every time I ask for something he say I … He was retired when he is about 54 years old. Most of the time, this money was spent on things both spouses wanted, like vacations, clothing, restaurants and cars. I can control what I do with the money I make. We have been married a year and I am 5 months prego. I like my job, but would have worked part time at any point to have more time for my two kids. Husband makes more money than wife. I am glad you are asking for opinion…. One of the most common causes of arguments between couples is disagreements over money, mostly about how it should be spent, or not spent. My heart hurts for you all. A common solution, then, is to split the expenses in proportion to your incomes. Dilemma #1: The High Earner Makes Unilateral Money Decisions. So I try to do more with less. If, however, the husband leaves a spouse and children or grandchildren surviving him, then his Residuary Estate is potentially divided differently if the value is worth more than £250,000. “When my husband stopped having sex with me, he said that my haranguing him about his lack of income killed his desire,” notes Lisa R., a recently divorced publicist in Vail, Colorado. Lovely ! If your husband is a miser, he’s probably trying to do the same thing I do. I never thought I wanted to be a stay at home mom, but now that I have a small child I just want to be with her all … I didn't like that in the beginning, but now it turns me on. The little I earn goes straight into a separate business account for business expenses and taxes. I didn’t want to pay all the stupid bills. We get groceries on my husband’s salary. He only gives me enough money for the bills now and nothing extra. The reasons aren’t necessarily related to dishonesty on the part of the husband. Should we file separately? ; Maybe he wants to take the kids Trick-or-Treating but you’re not sure if Christians should celebrate Halloween. If it is, then the surviving spouse is entitled to receive all of their husband’s personal possessions together with a legacy of £250,000 from his Estate. My journalistic journey has taken me from Forbes to Money to Kiplinger's Personal Finance to U.S. News and World Report, where I developed the "Second Acts" column back in … We have four children currently in education ranging from 11 to 19. Ok, my husband owns his own company that must do well. My husband has been through many jobs, and had his own business for a decade, which didn't make much money. I am a woman who makes more than my husband and our situation is growing less unique by the day. I asked my husband about this and he said its unlikely because he is still figuring his career and life out and I bring home the most money. My husband has been moody since we got back from vacation. In … My husband and I need to rewrite our will. I’m a miser. 'My husband only cares about money, not about me' ... because I was in a relationship with my husband for 7 years before we decided to settle down. So here I am, a few months into freelancing, earning next to nothing while my husband supports us both. If you say, “all my husband cares about is money,” it’s possible he compensates or copes in a similar way I do. That’s a good step forward. Usually his paychecks were never enough for the bills. 1. Part time at any point to have more time for myself would nice! 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